Can I Relocate With My Kids: Answers from a Child Custody Attorney

The issue of relocation is one of the many reasons people need a child custody attorney.  This is perhaps the most complicated issue that two divorced, or divorcing, parents can face.  Neither parent can simply relocate the children without the consent of the other or the approval of a judge.  This is supposed to protect the rights of both parents, but can also be fairly restrictive.

Relocation can be something as simple as moving outside of the school district or as complicated a moving across the country.  If the kids are in school, any move away from that school may be considered a relocation and require some form of agreement. When this happens, the parent that wants to move has to file a notice of relocation and the other party has the right to agree or fight to prevent the move.  If the parties can’t agree, both sides will likely work with a lawyer.

When evaluating a request for relocation a judge is likely to consider these things:

What is in the best interest of the child?  This is ambiguous but something that the courts try to live by.  They come to this conclusion usually after listening to witness testimony and evaluating the case facts presented by your child custody attorney.

Will their relationships be interrupted?  How will the move impact their relationship with both parents, siblings, and other family members?  The court will want to see that their relationships can be preserved as much as possible and will look for a plan to do so.

What is the reason for the move?  The moving party needs to show that there is an important reason for moving such as a job, family support, etc.  This reason is unique for every situation but one must exist because the case is built around it.

What is the current custody arrangement?  If the moving parent already has primary custody, the relocation is more likely to be granted.  If, however, custody is shared or the moving person has minority custody, it is more of an uphill battle and requires a strong legal case.

Relocation is extremely challenging for both parents because there are no sure bets.  The judge has the authority to grant or deny relocation based on their personal thoughts and opinions. It is up to a child custody attorney to make a case for why the relocation should be allowed.  This is not a time to hold back but rather to use all of the information and resources you have to build a strong case that includes witness testimony.  Otherwise, you are likely to lose. 

One thing you can consider is asking the court to appoint a guardian ad litem to the case.  This person will evaluate the children with you and with your ex-spouse.  By watching your interactions and how they behave around each of you, will give them the information they need in order to make a recommendation.  Their opinion is highly valued by the court since they represent a third and un-biased party’s opinion. 

If you are considering relocation, don’t hesitate to hire a child custody attorney. 

Why You Need a Divorce Attorney to Help with Your Military Divorce

If you are in the military or married to a service member, you need to hire a divorce attorney to help with your separation or divorce.  These cases can be far more complicated than a civilian divorce simply due to the variety of issues that military members face that others do not.  For example, when deployed overseas it is very difficult to engage an attorney and deal with the process. Representing yourself is really not a viable option.  Instead, an expert lawyer can help you to navigate through the issues successfully.

There are two sides to every divorce case, and even the most amiable divorces still have some level of contention and fighting.  A lawyer can help to make the process go more smoothly and mitigate some of the tension. Whether you are an active duty military member or the spouse of one, here is why working with a lawyer is a good idea.

If you are active duty military…

While you are deployed, your spouse is still allowed to file for divorce.  This creates a unique set of challenges as you may have limited access to communication and regardless, dealing with a divorce from far away is not easy.  We can help by requesting that the court stay the proceedings until you get back.  This gives you time to process and prepare.  It is up the judge to decide but as a divorce attorney, we will put forth the best argument as to why you are not in a position to go through the process but will be upon your return.  If, however, you would like to proceed with the divorce from far away, we can help to facilitate the negotiations to make sure that your interests are protected.  If your spouse wants to settle quickly, they will need to be willing to compromise and work with your requests.

If you are deployed, do not let your spouse bully you or threaten you with statements about taking the kids, etc.  You still have rights, and we can help to protect them.

If you are married to a service member...

One of the largest challenges you may face is figuring out how to start your life over.  For example, if you are living in military housing, you will not be able to stay there once the divorce is complete.  This means you will need to find new housing, which at times, may force you to look out of the state.  This is most common when families move to a base far from home.  It is common to want to go home to where your support system is.  The challenge is that if you have children, you can’t move without permission. Either your spouse must agree, or a judge must approve your request for relocation.  Even during the separation process, you must file for relocation before actually moving your children out of state.  We can help you to sort through this process and make a case for why you should be able to do so.

Military divorces are complicated, and these are only a few of the issues that we commonly see.  If you are considering separation or divorce, call us to speak with an experienced divorce attorney so that you and your future is protected.